Taking Control of your Self Image

articles podcast Apr 21, 2019



create a powerful self image from the principle of Kintsugi

Usually, what I talk about is drills, techniques and exercises that you can do to engage with your children while teaching them at the same time, and having fun. But in this episode, I want to have a discussion about you.

 Specifically, I want to talk about your self-image.

 There is a Japanese concept that I find can be used to approach the discomfort of facing one’s self-image that so many adults have, especially parents. It is called Kintsugi, "golden joinery”. Oftentimes, kintsugi is characterized as beautiful bowl that's broken, shattered, and instead of just discarding it for an easy replacement of another, the bowl is put back together carefully. The cracks and imperfections created by it’s shattering  are actually used to make the bowl become more beautiful, and entirely unique.

 It's carefully pieced back together with a stronger mortar, and then gold is...

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Martial Arts, Wrestling and Hand Holding

articles podcast Apr 19, 2019

Dads with 4-5 year olds, martial arts for kids? Wrestling, facepalm and hand holding

I’m going to recommend that maybe you ‘not’ enroll your 3-5 year old in a martial arts program. If anything, enroll them into a gymnastics, tumbling program.


You see, let’s imagine they ‘actually do’ end up getting rough with a kid in their kindergarten class. The other child ends up grabbing your child, causing her to fall over.  Going to the ground safely, rolling, being aware of what’s on the ground and coming back to their feet is more important to their immediate safety, than that mean kindergartener.


If you do chose to enroll your little one into a martial art at such a young age, then I strongly encourage an art like quality Judo or Brazilian Jiujitsu.


Although I love the traditional Okinawa styles, I couldn’t suggest a kara-te or striking art at this young age. Not a lot of people realize that the growth plates...

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How to teach your kids to make fast choices when facing fear, discomfort dash

articles Apr 12, 2019

Gentlemen, I want to spend a couple minutes with you sharing with you and very important topic called the freeze.

This is something that your children are going to encounter from their young early childhood, all the ways up to their adult life. It doesn't make a difference if you're a kid or if you're a seasoned professional law-enforcement officer who's exposed to the potential of violence daily.

Freezing, and there are a number of different ways that a person freezes, is something that happens and it's something that the professionals train for. The good news is, it's something that we as dads can take ownership of and train our children through it, so it’s less likely to happen to them. 

I'm going to share with you a couple of exercises that you can use daily with your children, activities that you can do with them and to encourage fast decision making, to get them to a point where they unlock themselves so that they're not frozen when fear arises in their life.


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Close Quarter Dad, Start Here

articles podcast Apr 11, 2019


Hey there, check out our community of fathers and men learning tactical parenting skills at: https://closequarterdad.com.

See you there.

The content that you're going to learn while being immersed into this program, while it's meant to help you to understand concepts, principles, and techniques so that you can teach them to your children - it's ultimately about making you the trainer, the teacher, and the model power for your children.

In order to do that, there are many high-level concepts, some that can be dangerous. In the spirit of responsibility, I want to get to know each one of you on the path with me.

I want to know who it is that I'm communicating with. I want to know how you're using these concepts and exercises to empower your children. Chances are, if you're reading this, then you've met those expectations already.

I appreciate you for that. Over the last 20 years of studying the topic of personal protection, I've had the honor of becoming close friends with...

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JUNE 28TH, 2019


I discovered a critical weakness that 82% of fathers have after training over 5,000 children, over 20 years.

And the 8 actions that every Dad can use to transform their power in tactical parenting.