How to create a safe environment for your children with Adam Mitchell

articles blog podcast Nov 20, 2020

How to create a safe environment for your children with Adam Mitchell. Adam Mitchell holds a 6th-degree black belt in a traditional martial arts school and a 3rd degree black belt in Judo.

He built and launched the first fully interactive online training resource for martial arts, and is currently teaching over 450 students, including having taught the Barbaro kids, out of a 900 square foot school in Mahopac, NY. One of Adam’s passions is about how young people can build cruelty free environments in school. In this episode, we are going to dive into the seven principles, which include:

  1. The Dwyer Effect
  2. Gift of Time
  3. Trauma Triangle
  4. The Jock Stick - law of escalation Stop/don’t stop
  5. The Sword of Proven Peace
  6. Freeze Factor
  7. Social Proof
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Functional vs Improvisational Training

articles podcast Mar 16, 2020
 

Let's talk about understanding the difference between improvisational training and functional training and how we should approach working with our children to give them a clear understanding and skill set of for personal protection.

How can they really take ownership of the lessons you teach them, and do so in a way that they don't get discouraged?

Training by nature comes with risk, and the risk exists in both functional and improvisational models of training. Understanding that first, (before I get into the differences between the two approaches to training) is important.

Danger exists physically and mentally in training. Mentally can be space or experience where someone gets discouraged iand they quit. We don't want them to do that, we want them to stay motivated, to enjoy the experience.

But we also want the experience to be garnished with reality. We want the experience experience to be at sometimes shocking, but of course not traumatic.

We want them to...

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The Jiu Jitsu of Stress

articles podcast Mar 06, 2020
 

 

Reflections on creating space, recovery and combat tricks from a century ago. 

We can empower our kids with the best techniques to stay safe if someone grabs them, or teach them how to prevent a bully from hurting them 

… or we can show them what to do if a group of kids tries jumping them 

… or we can even show them how to get out of the trunk of a car they're locked inside.

The scenarios go on and on.

But the reality is, if your children don't know how to manage and cope with stress properly, they will be at much greater statistical risk throughout their lives, to encounter suffering or self imposed violence. Read that again.  

In a previous episode I shared some basic exercises, tools and discussions we can have with our kids about stress and anxiety. 

I think even more important is making sure they model how you manage stress, as that's what it's going to come down to. The are watching how you manage it, during each stage of their...

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How to Teach Kids to Protect Themselves

articles blog podcast Feb 19, 2020

Originally aired on the Dad Edge Podcast

The world can be a dangerous place, and our kids are especially vulnerable. From bullying and abuse to abductions and shootings, how can we shield our children from danger? More importantly, how can we teach them to respond to violence when we aren’t with them?

Today we have Dad Edge Alliance member Adam Mitchell. He is a personal protection expert who specializes in tactical parenting. He is also the host of the Close Quarter Dad Podcast and Training Program.

In this episode, we do a live Q&A with our members on how to teach kids to protect themselves. Adam answers questions about why dads should train with their kids, when they should begin showing them self-protection strategies, and how to train kids to be vigilant, but not fearful.

This is a show every dad needs to hear to keep his family safe. Plus, look out for a special offer at the end of the interview.

 

Adam Mitchell and Close Quarter Dad

“My name is Adam...

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My Son Wants Revenge, Reflections on Friends Getting Jumped

articles blog podcast Feb 13, 2020
 

 

 

Over the last few days, I've been handling a situation with my oldest son. He's 18 years old and he's dealing with a fight that happened here in our community that involved his friends.

My son called me from somewhere in about 12:30 am the other evening and explained to me that a group of his friends had been jumped.

I dug into the details a little bit more.

His friends had gone to meet a another group of kids to watch a one on one fight to settle something that had escalated at a McDonald’s parking lot earlier that evening; one of these stupid teenage dramas that sadly escalated to a point of no return.

His friends showed up at the designated fight location, and apparently all of them ended up getting jumped by a large(r) group of kids.

The situation turned pretty bad.

A baseball baseball bat had hit a kid’s head, a knife was involved in a stabbing, someone got hit with a hammer with the claw side of a framing hammer and these boys got beat down. ...

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Ask Yourself Threatening Questions

blog podcast Jan 15, 2020
 

 

In this episode I want to challenge you to ask yourself what I call threatening questions

 These are questions that as a parent, we don't want to face … they are dark. They are questions we may not even know to ask ourselves. 

  • What if I get separated from you in the city, I get lost and it's dark? What do I do? 
  • Will I really have to fight to save my life some day?
  • What happens if you get hurt? What am I supposed to do
  • What if a police officer approaches me and tells me to come with him because you and mom have been hurt and they need to take me to the hospital to be with you? 
  • If I hear gunshots at school, what should I really do? 
  • That man makes me feel really uncomfortable, what am I supposed to say to him every time he talks to me? 
  • You told me not to talk to strangers. But if I call 911 the operator that answers is a stranger also. So who really is a stranger? 
  • What happens if a mean person comes at us in the parking...
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Reflecting on nature in martial arts, not so much a secret

articles podcast Dec 22, 2019

As a professional martial artist, I've made it a career for more than a decade to teach people from all walks of life, young and old, how to remain safe.

Discovery of self preservation and safety is not merely about learning a technique to apply against a bad guy, although most martial arts systems today are systemized like this.

This type of approach is shortsighted at best, lacking the critical principles of escalation and de-escalation, both of which rely on the practitioners deeper understanding and exposure to reality based training at many more levels than is what is popular in most academies today.

Easy to teach techniques make money, but very, very rarely equip a student to survive.

From my perspective, the study of true martial arts has nothing to do with sport.

It even has little to do with neutralizing an enemy combatant in the field of battle.

True martial arts has everything to do with developing the skills to remain in control especially under dire...

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Teach Your Child to be Found Part 1

articles podcast Dec 14, 2019
 

In this video, I challenge you to ask your child a question. Try it out and see what they say.

I discuss some first steps you can teach your child in case they become separated from you or a group they may be with - and suddenly find themselves alone and lost.

This can be the scariest situation for parents, so it's up to us to make it a priority to gain the knowledge and skill, so that we can pass it on, and make sure our children know what to do should they become suddenly lost.

So, what was their answer? Please share.

 
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How Far Will You Really Go To Survive?

articles podcast Sep 29, 2019
 

Let’s have a discussion and explore some thought exercises around your own personal capacity when it comes to survival and reality.

The other day I was overhearing a discussion between some colleagues, they were talking about how ‘they would kill in a situation where their children were starving and needed to get food for their children’.

Their sentiment is certainly in the right place and I think any father can relate to that feeling, but realistically I question these men and their own personal capacity and understanding what it is they were talking about.

Given the circumstances of extreme poverty, of economic collapse or society breakdown, as crazy as it may sound, let's reflect on our own capacity as men and have some internal dialogue about whether or not we would have the capability of going to that extreme.

If you're part of my Close Quarter Dad Program, then you've already been introduced to the principles of Decision Skip and the Ethical Freeze. The...

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How to speak with your kids about violence

articles podcast Sep 09, 2019
 

Are you having discussions with your children about the topic of violence and where violence is may happen in their life, how they're going to be able to manage it, what happens when they see it, how to make basic sense of it?

Well, in this episode, I will introduce you to a couple of tactics you can use to have those very important discussions with your children about violence.

  

 

Let's get started.

First, why is it that we don't have those discussions with our children about the topic of violence? Meanwhile, violence is all around them, whether it be in entertainment, in media, at school, in music…  they're constantly exposed to high, high levels of violence all around them.

How often do we have those discussions so they make sense of it and they're able to manage it inside their heads for the rest of their lives?

Let’s look back at when we were kids. When I was a young child, the actual discussion of emotional-based topics such as sexuality...

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